About Me

Hi All. I’m Rebekah Bradley who is an alienated Stepmom dedicated to speaking up. Our blended family started showing signs of alienation and hostility in 2008. The Biomom has tried her best to kick my husband and I out of my Bonus Daughters life. Even to the point of false allegations of child abuse. She refuses to listen to the court orders and does her own thing. We have lost all hope in the court system.  I know how this sickening mind game is played. I’m living and seeing this nightmare now. It breaks my heart to know parents will use their own child and turn them against the other parent. The manipulator will even try to break the loving bond with the parent, step parent, other family members and child(ren). This is my side of the story the facts not the lies. If you need anything feel free to email me. My email is rebekah.ssac2010@gmail.com




20 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Hi, would you email me please? I have been working on a project that might really interest you. Would like to have a dialogue with you about it. Thanks for what you are doing with this site/blog. It’s really needed. Best regards,

    Mike McCormick
    P.S. am happy to send you my private phone number, just wasn’t sure if this contact form was public right away. Thank you.

  2. Thank you for your words. Thank you for fighting. Thank you for reminding me that we have not yet lost and we can NEVER stop fighting. Someday my bonus daughter will know that we did not leave her, forget her or abandon her.

    • Never stop fighting for what is right. It’s worth every single battle. These kids need us to stand up for them. Thanks for the comment and if you need anything just let me know.

    • No you aren’t alone. Sometimes it’s comforting to know you aren’t the only one going through this battle. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. It’s horrible that parents want to use their child to hurt others.

  3. Thank you for writing this blog & being so open & honest about how you feel. I have been going through the same thing for years & often feel as if no one understands. While I don’t want anyone to go through what we are going through… I’m also glad I’m not alone. Thanks again!

    • I totally know what you mean! Some people can’t understand it. I’m glad that you have found the blog to be helpful. I get pretty raw about my emotions. I pretty much lay it all out. The good the bad and the ugly parts. Just remember you aren’t’ alone. Feel free to contact me if you need anything. Stay strong.

  4. I have unfortunately dealt with a similar situation, not to the same degree, I must admit you have made my experience seem far less worse. We now have court ordered visitation, and fortunately our state is very strict with the orders. But I am also a young stepmother, who has dealt with a lot of hostility, anger, and jealousy. I have put my FB address in the info, I would really love to talk (or vent) through private message to one another! If not I understand but it was nice reading through everything, and know someone out there understands my feelings as well!

  5. Wow. This describes my life for the past 4 years in a nutshell. Thank you for sharing! It’s nice to know there are others out there going through this too and feeling the same way.

  6. This describes mine and my husbands life for 4 years. The BM uses my daughter as a pawn in her sick game. She feels our daughter would be better only being with her and seeing her father, me and her sibling on an extremely limited basis. It’s nice to see there really are other step moms like me that really care about their (step)children.

    • My heart goes out to you. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. These Biomoms should understand we aren’t here to replace them but to give the children more support through life. I hate that others deal with this type of situation. I’m not sure why the Biomoms would hate us from the beginning and not even give us a chance. I have to admit the Biomom did a great job playing two face in this nightmare. I thought everything was going just fine when in reality she just played us. Then she had to start this nightmare for us beginning at limiting contact with the child, making excuses why the child couldn’t come over, then later accusing me of child abuse only to kick me out of the child’s life. It’s sad to see these mothers rather create drama for the child instead of healthy homes for the child. Stay strong and I’m here if you need to talk.

  7. Thank you so much for your blog. It’s really helped me realize that I’m not alone. Me and my husband deal with a hostile birth mom. She hated me from the start. I tried my best to get along with her but she lives on drama. Looking at your blog makes me realize that I’m not the only one going through this. THANK YOU!!

    • ((hugs)) to you! It can be difficult dealing with someone who lives on drama. I think that’s how our Biomom is too. If something isn’t messed up she’s not happy. From my view it looks like she’s not happy unless there’s conflict somewhere. I wish these “mothers” would put their children first instead of insisting on having conflict. We aren’t here to take their place. We are here to help support and love the child. Hang in there and if you need an ear I’m here for you.

  8. I want to thank you so much for this blog. I’ve been reading it for a while and I’m touched by your words. I really thought I was alone in this battle but it’s great to see that I’m not alone. We haven’t seen our step kids in over 3 years. Alienation is real and it hurts. I know you see and feel this each day. May these kids know how much we have fought for them. Keep staying strong. You have given me a great insight so THANK YOU!!

    • There’s no need to thank me. I’m just sharing my story the real story. Not the made up manipulated one that’s been twisted all around. This is my views as an Alienated Stepmom. My heart goes out to you and your family during this difficult situation. Don’t give up and may I suggest a blog for the kids? I have one for my bonus daughter and it’s a great way for me to say hello to her. Let me know if you need anything. ((hugs))

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